Have you ever had one of your children come to you in an intense matter about a challenge they’re having that is totally fixable? Because they have never had to grow through this challenge yet they don’t have any ideas how to make it through. Women, how about your daughter’s first menstrual cycle? I'm so blessed that God made me a man. I have no idea what it is like to have to go through that every month.
I do remember my daughter calling my wife to the bathroom in a hysterical manner as if something was really wrong. After my wife came out, I asked her what was wrong only to not want to know all the details. To all the single Dad’s raising young women, I really have a lot of respect for you because you have had to be both mother and father. It is already not easy parenting, but then also having to act as both parents is a little more challenging.
As I am writing this blog my oldest son is finding his way as a 23 year old, my daughter is turning 16 and my youngest is 4. All of them have their own personalities and their own challenges that we are growing through as a family. My 4 year old is learning how to sleep in his own bed and not want to be in our bed every night. Our daughter is about to have her sweet 16 party and get her driver’s license. My 23 year old is finding his way through his career. All these events have our family bonding together and growing through life experiences.
The glue for us is our faith that God will provide all that we need. Emotionally what may seem to be routine sometimes can be quite a traumatic experience. If Christ were not in my life I don’t know if I would have the patients to deal with all that parenting has to offer. It’s easy to quit when it gets tough, or verbally abuse your spouse. It’s a totally different thing to realize that God loves you and wants you to Love his children so therefore you need to apologize to those you hurt. But more importantly you need to get help so that they don’t grow up verbally abusing their children because they haven’t figured out how to deal with the stresses of life.
Life is a marathon and it’s going to take a support team to navigate through it. If you don’t belong to a church, just visit a few even if you've never set foot in one. People are warm, friendly and they truly care about your well-being. Once you are there, stay a while and get to know some people. You’ll find out what I did after years of Alcohol and Marijuana addiction, that it’s the best place to be in the entire world.